Okay, real talk for a second…
You know that feeling when you’re crushing it in every area of life except dating? Like, your career’s on fire, your fitness is on point, but your love life? Yeah… not so much.
I was talking to my buddy Alex the other day. Dude owns two companies, has abs you could grate cheese on, and still can’t keep a relationship going past three months.
“I don’t get it,” he told me. “I’m doing everything right.”
And that’s exactly the problem.
The Weird Truth
Here’s something nobody talks about…
You know all those skills making you successful in life? That drive, that planning, that perfect execution?
They’re straight-up murdering your relationship game.
I know, I know. Sounds crazy, right?
But stick with me here…
The Success Trap
Picture this: You’re on a date. It’s going well. Too well. You’ve planned everything perfectly. The restaurant? Reservations made two weeks ago. The conversation? You’ve got topics ready. The timing? Scheduled to perfection.
And she’s bored out of her mind.
Not because you’re boring. But because you’re treating her like a business presentation.
“But That’s How I Do Everything!”
Yeah, I hear you. That’s the problem.
Let me break it down…
You’re used to:
- Making things happen
- Taking control
- Following plans
- Getting results
And normally, that works great. But in relationships?
It’s like using a hammer to make soup. Wrong tool, my friend.
The Three Big Screw-Ups
- Playing Chess When She’s Dancing
You’re ten moves ahead, planning everything out.
Meanwhile, she just wants to feel something real. - Being a CEO When She Needs a Partner
You’re managing the situation like a boss.
She’s looking for someone to share the moment with. - Optimizing When You Should Be Vibing
You’re trying to maximize efficiency.
She’s hoping for some spontaneous magic.
Here’s What’s Really Going On
Remember your best night out ever?
Bet it wasn’t the one you planned for weeks.
It was probably that random Tuesday when:
- Plans got messed up
- You went with the flow
- Something unexpected happened
- Magic just… happened
But Here’s Where It Gets Interesting…
You know why that worked?
Because for once, you weren’t:
- Running the show
- Controlling everything
- Following a plan
- Trying to succeed
You were just… there. Present. Real.
The Big Question
“So what, I’m just supposed to wing everything?”
Nah, that’s not it either.
It’s about finding that sweet spot between:
- Having your act together
- But not acting like it’s a business deal
- Being capable
- But not controlling everything
Let Me Paint You a Picture
Two scenarios:
Scenario 1:
You’ve got the perfect date planned. Everything’s on schedule. You’re hitting all your conversation points. It’s going exactly as planned.
And it feels about as natural as a plastic tree.
Scenario 2:
Your reservation gets messed up. You end up at some random food truck. You’re both laughing about it. The night takes its own path.
And suddenly… magic.
The Real Deal
Here’s the truth nobody’s telling you:
Your relationship game isn’t failing because you’re not good enough.
It’s failing because you’re trying too hard to be perfect.
Think about it…
When was the last time you:
- Just went with the flow?
- Let things get messy?
- Had no real plan?
- Actually surprised yourself?
Can’t remember? That’s a problem.
The Fix
It’s not about learning more techniques or strategies.
It’s about unlearning the stuff that’s getting in your way.
Most guys will never figure this out. They’ll keep:
- Over-planning everything
- Trying to control outcomes
- Following formulas
- Missing the magic
But you’re smarter than that.
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Talk soon,
Matthew Coast