The Cat Paradox
Ever notice how a cat reacts when you try to pet it?
Walk straight at it, and it runs away. Ignore it completely? Suddenly it’s rubbing against your leg, demanding attention.
Turns out, female attraction follows a weirdly similar pattern. And there’s fascinating science behind why.
The Science of Pushing Away
Let me tell you a quick story…
Last year, researchers made a bizarre discovery. They found that women’s attraction chemicals actually decrease when a man becomes too available. Like, literally decrease. Their brains produce fewer “love hormones” the closer a guy tries to get.
It’s like there’s a built-in “push away” response.
Think about that time you really liked a girl, and everything was going great. Then you started getting closer, showing more attention, being more available…
And suddenly she started pulling away.
Your Brain on Attraction
You probably thought you did something wrong. But here’s the crazy part – getting closer was what you did wrong.
Here’s why this happens…
Your brain on attraction is like your brain on coffee. The first cup of the day? Amazing. But by your fourth cup, you barely feel it. Your brain has adapted, and now you need more to get the same effect.
Female attraction works the same way.
The Chemical Cocktail
When you’re a mystery, her brain produces a cocktail of attraction chemicals:
- Dopamine (the “wanting more” chemical)
- Norepinephrine (the “excitement” chemical)
- Serotonin (the “obsessive thinking” chemical)
But the closer you get, the less these chemicals flow.
It’s like her brain has a natural defense mechanism against becoming too attached. The more available you become, the more this mechanism kicks in.
The Slot Machine Effect
Scientists found something even weirder…
Women actually feel stronger attraction to men who create what researchers call “intermittent reinforcement.” Basically, being unpredictably available triggers more attraction than being consistently available.
Think about a slot machine.
If it paid out every time, it wouldn’t be addictive. It’s the uncertainty that keeps people pulling the lever. Your brain craves the unpredictability.
The Attraction Killer
Female attraction works surprisingly similar.
When you’re always there, always available, always showing interest, you become like a slot machine that pays out every time. There’s:
- No mystery
- No anticipation
- No chase
- No excitement
Her brain literally stops producing attraction chemicals because it doesn’t need them anymore. It’s got what it wants.
The Common Mistake
But here’s where most guys mess up…
They try to fix this by:
- Showing more attention
- Being more available
- Trying harder
- Getting closer
Which is exactly like trying to make coffee work better by drinking more of it. You’re just making her brain more immune to your presence.
The Hidden Pattern
The truth is, there’s a specific pattern of availability that keeps her attraction chemicals flowing. A natural rhythm that keeps her wanting more instead of pulling away.
Most men will never understand this pattern. They’ll keep:
- Getting too close
- Killing attraction
- Pushing her away
- Wondering what went wrong
But now you know different.
You understand there’s actual brain chemistry behind why getting closer makes her want you less. A biological response that’s been screwing up relationships since humans existed.
Want to know how to keep her attraction growing instead of fading?