Every guy knows that moment. You want to create tension with her, but you’re worried about coming across wrong.
Here’s the truth: Sexual tension isn’t about what you do – it’s about how you make her feel. And after helping thousands of guys master this skill, I can tell you it’s simpler than you think.
The Fundamental Truth:
Women want tension. They crave it. But they want it from guys who understand the game – not guys who make it weird.
Here’s how to do it right:
1. The Eye Contact Switch
Most guys either stare too hard (creepy) or avoid eye contact completely (friend zone). Instead:
- Hold eye contact a beat longer than normal
- Break it first, casually
- Occasionally let your eyes drop to her lips when she’s talking
- Return to normal eye contact
This creates waves of tension without the creep factor.
2. Strategic Touch Escalation
Forget about pickup artist tricks. Use the natural progression:
- Light touches during emotional highs in conversation
- Brief contact when making a point
- Casual proximity that creates awareness
- Physical positioning that feels natural but charged
The key? Always give her space to lean in.
3. Voice and Pacing
Your voice is a powerful tool:
- Lower your tone slightly
- Slow down your speech at key moments
- Create deliberate pauses
- Let silence do the heavy lifting
Remember: Tension lives in the spaces between words.
4. The Push-Pull Dynamic
This is where most guys mess up. They either:
- Push too hard (desperate)
- Pull too much (passive)
Instead:
- Show clear interest, then create space
- Build moments of intensity, then break them with humor
- Let her feel your desire without neediness
5. Reading Her Signals
The difference between sexy and creepy? Reading her response:
- Is she holding eye contact longer?
- Does she find reasons to touch you?
- Is she playing with her hair?
- Does she mirror your energy?
These are green lights to escalate gradually.
The Biggest Mistake:
Most guys try to create tension through words or obvious moves. Real tension builds through subtle dynamics. It’s about making her wonder, making her think about you in that way.
Why It Works:
When you master this, something interesting happens. Women start saying things like:
“I don’t normally feel this way so quickly…”
“There’s just something about you…”
“I can’t explain it, but…”
That’s what you’re aiming for.
A Recent Success Story:
Mike was the classic “nice guy” – women liked him but never felt that spark. After learning these principles, his next date texted him: “I couldn’t stop thinking about you last night…”
He didn’t use cheesy lines or aggressive moves. He simply understood how to create proper tension.
The Key Principle:
Sexual tension isn’t about being sexual – it’s about creating the space for sexuality to emerge naturally.
How To Get Girls To Quit The “Disappearing Act” After Dates
Wouldn’t it be cool to not ever have to worry about what to say or do or where to take girls on a date ever again?
Wouldn’t it be awesome to not ever have to slog your way through multiple dates with a woman, HOPING at the end of one of these dates you’ll get the girl?
Isn’t it so much more FUN when you spark an immediate connection with a girl… and the courtship is smooth, easy, and completely mutual?
My friend Chase Amante shows you how to accomplish ALL that with his incredible “One Date System.”
One Date breaks all this down for you, step by step.
It lets you achieve this with a novel “date calibration” system… this lets you figure out EXACTLY what a girl needs wherever you are with her:
⇒ Give Any Girl EXACTLY The Date She Needs ⇐
One Date is all about SPEED because, as Chase puts it, “life intervenes.”
Things are going great… then, suddenly, you’ve missed your shot.
The window that was open before, closes.
I don’t want you to miss those windows with great girls. And Chase doesn’t want you to miss those windows too.
That’s why he created One Date… and why I’m sharing this phenomenal video he has up on it with you:
⇒ Watch The Video & Snag One Date ⇐
Give it a watch.
It’s GOOD. And it explains a LOT.
WHEN GIRLS JUST DISAPPEAR
Have you ever had a MAGICAL first date with a girl… one where the two of you laughed, connected, touched, and sparks flew?
You ended the date feeling CERTAIN the two of you would get together.
In fact, you felt NO urgency whatsoever.
There was zero need to hurry.
The connection between you was UNDENIABLE.
You were hers, and she was yours.
You fell asleep that night, confident this girl was your next lover or girlfriend.
And then… you didn’t ever see her again.
Or you did, but the next time, all that magic was gone, and it fizzled out.
Why the heck does this HAPPEN?
One common explanation is you read too much into that first date. You got love blind, and saw a connection that wasn’t there.
Another is that most dates “start cold”, and you have to start from zero again and attract her once more each time you “reboot” on a new date.
In his materials on One Date, Chase talks about a different reason, though.
The most TYPICAL reason, he says, is actually that “life intervenes.”
She liked you, but after her date with you she met someone else. Or she got busy with work. Or something happened to change her mind about you.
The second most typical reason, he says, is she was READY TO GO on Date #1… but you didn’t deliver.
She left, disappointed, and the next time you contacted her, her emotion was “No thanks. I don’t want to him to disappoint me AGAIN.”
Both of those outcomes can sound frustrating.
But they should also be encouraging.
Because what they BOTH mean is that your dating life is a LOT more in your hands than you might’ve realized.
The sole thing you need to do is acknowledge it and act accordingly.
HOW TO HALT THE “DISAPPEARING WOMAN” EFFECT
There’s an old playboy joke about flakes that goes like this:
Q: “How do you stop a girl from flaking?”
A: “Sleep with her the day you meet her!”
It sounds cheeky. Yet it refers to a REAL phenomenon:
The best time to get together with a girl is when she’s with you and FEELING you.
One of the primary things Chase shows you how to do in One Date is build a custom date that does EVERYTHING with her on that single first date.
You go from total strangers to happy bedmates in just one (1) wonderful first experience.
For HER, it feels like magic.
She connects with you at the most intimate, emotional level.
She feels aroused by you, in the most exciting, salacious ways.
She surrenders herself to you, as she entrusts you to lead her to more and more incredible feelings.
The entire date is like a dream for her. It’s like you know her greatest romantic FANTASY, and have brought it to life.
For YOU, all it is is following the steps.
You follow the steps to find out what sort of dater she is. What sort of date she NEEDS to have that “fantasy come to life” experience.
Then you follow the steps to GIVE her that fantasy.
It’s actually not that much to remember.
Chase gives you a very handy shorthand for figuring out precisely what any girl needs at any stage of the courtship.
That way you don’t ever get “lost in the woods”, no matter where you’re at with her.
You’ll use this process from the MOMENT you first spot her.
It makes it simple to walk up to her and say hi.
Simple to make that initial connection. And to ask her out and get her to say yes.
Simple to plan the date with her (she gives you her contact info when she says yes to the date).
Then simple to take her on that date.
Create the EXPERIENCE she’s craved to have all her LIFE.
And whisk her back to the bedroom to cap off the date and make her yours.
When you follow the One Date System, she will want to KEEP seeing you, after.
So if she’s a girl you want as a girlfriend (or even as a friend with benefits), you can get that with ease too.
The RESULT of this is, you don’t ever have to worry about the “vanishing woman” effect AGAIN.
You might get a few girls who vanish after you take their contact info (but if you follow the One Date steps for that, it’ll be rare).
However, once she’s on that date with you, she is LOCKED IN.
You are going to build the connection.
Create the spark.
Ratchet the tension up.
Get her to follow your lead EVERYWHERE.
Then lead her somewhere private, and get intimate.
After that, you follow the One Date post-intimacy game plan, and she’ll be over at your place any time you want her there.
No more “disappearing woman.”
Instead, you get the opposite problem:
Trying to figure out HOW to get your super clingy girlfriend to give you some space.
(you might just start to wish the date you gave her was a little less perfect)
Watch Chase’s presentation on One Date right now; then after, pick up a copy of his course:
⇒ Give Any Girl EXACTLY The Date She Needs ⇐
It’s going to change how you approach dating.