Ever wonder why some guys just seem… forgettable? Let me break down the traits that are making women mentally check out before you even get a chance.
- The “Yes Man” Syndrome
You know that guy who agrees with everything she says? Who’s afraid to have a different opinion? Yeah, don’t be him. Having your own views (even if they’re different) makes you interesting. Nobody wants to date their echo. - The Story Killer
“How was your day?” “Good.” “What do you like to do?” “Not much.”
Dead-end responses kill conversations and interest. If you’re giving one-word answers and not adding anything to keep things flowing, you’re basically begging her to find someone more engaging. - The Schedule Slave
“I can’t, I have work tomorrow.” “Maybe next week.” “I need to check my calendar.”
Being responsible is good. Being so rigid that you can’t handle spontaneity is boring. Life happens outside your comfort zone, not in your daily routine. - The Passion Vacuum
Nothing lights you up. Nothing makes you excited. Nothing gets you fired up.
If you can’t get enthusiastic about anything, how can you expect anyone to get enthusiastic about you? - The Safe Player
Never taking risks. Never making bold moves. Always playing it “smart.”
Here’s the thing – playing it safe might keep you from failing, but it also keeps you from standing out. And being forgettable is worse than striking out. - The Opinion Dodger
“Whatever you want.” “I’m fine with anything.” “You choose.”
Being easy-going is one thing. Having no opinions is another. If you can’t make decisions or take stands, you’re not being nice – you’re being boring. - The Energy Vampire
Everything is serious. Everything needs to be logical. Everything needs to be analyzed.
If you can’t lighten up and have fun, you’re exhausting to be around. Not everything needs to be a deep discussion or serious debate.
Here’s the good news: These traits aren’t permanent. They’re just habits you’ve picked up, probably thinking they were the “right” way to act.
Want to stop being the boring guy? Start here:
- Have opinions (and express them)
- Share stories (not just facts)
- Show enthusiasm (about anything)
- Take social risks
- Make decisions
- Bring energy to conversations
- Be spontaneous sometimes
Remember: Being a “nice guy” doesn’t mean being a boring guy. You can be respectful, kind, AND interesting at the same time.
The real question is: Which of these traits hit close to home for you? And what are you going to do about it?
Because here’s the truth – women aren’t avoiding you because you’re a bad person. They’re avoiding you because you’re not giving them any reason to remember you.
Time to change that, don’t you think?
5 Effective Date Plans That Get You The Girl
You’ve got to have a plan for a date, right?
Truth is that most guys just wing it.
Winging it is fine, IF you know what you’re doing.
Guys who’ve winged it for years eventually figure out good places to take girls on dates, and good things to do with them.
By that point, of course, they’re not ACTUALY “winging it” anymore. They have a date plan… one forged through tests and failure.
So what if you don’t HAVE a date plan yet?
Must you fail your way through 30 dates to figure one out?
Well, you’re in luck. Chase gave me 5 super effective date plans he’s going to let me share with you today.
Use these with girls you ask out, and you’ll be on your way to some very fruitful dates.
#1: BASIC COFFEE DATE
This is your “meet and chat” plan.
You don’t have to meet for coffee. It could be hot chocolates. Or crepes. Or ice cream or frozen yogurt.
All you’ll do is meet up for a light refreshment, and TALK.
Basic Coffee Dates are handy because you can use them for different things:
- Basic Coffee Dates are perfect dates to build similarity on for girls you meet who are “connection seekers”
- If you met a girl but did not make a strong impression, you can use quick Basic Coffee Dates to get her comfortable with you (so you can do a more “involved” date with her later)
- If you don’t have much time but want to make sure things don’t fizzle out, a Basic Coffee Date is enough to keep her warm while she waits for that full date with you
The best way to plan a Basic Coffee Date is to meet up with her somewhere AWAY from the coffee shop and walk there with her.
This is important, Chase says, because once you’re on the date you won’t move around much.
So it’s very HELPFUL for her to walk there with you first, so she has the memory of being in more than one place with you.
Basic Coffee Dates can run from 30 minutes to 2 hours.
When the date is over, you can say your farewells… or if it’s gone well, you can exit the coffee shop with her and switch to one of the next four dates.
What do you DO on a Basic Coffee Date?
You do everything Chase talks about for the “similarity date” inside One Date.
Just log into One Date, hit “Play” on Lesson 4, and Chase spells it all out for you.
Follow the steps he lays out and you and your date will have an unbelievable connection in a very short amount of time.
#2: LAUGHS & THRILLS DATE
The Laughs & Thrills Date is a fun, involving date to take rambunctious date partners on.
This date follows the “arousal date” structure from One Date.
Do what Chase gives you to do inside Lesson 4 on arousal dates, and you’ll have her BURSTING with arousal.
The Laughs & Thrills date plan sets the scene for your One Date arousal building by putting you in an environment that makes arousal EASY.
This date is at a place with an active entertainment that spikes feelings of arousal. Examples that work great include:
- Hilarious comedy shows
- Escape rooms
- Going dancing (salsa class works great if you’re not a dancer)
- Roller coasters
- Laser tag
- Arcades (Skee ball and air hockey are both awesome for this!)
Once you’re there, follow the steps from Lesson 4 on building arousal and you will fast find yourself with one very aroused woman.
#3: ADVENTURE DATE
The Adventure Date is another arousal date, like Laughs & Thrills.
You’ll use the same outstanding tools from One Date’s arousal section to ratchet up her interest.
Yet what’s different about the Adventure Date is how ACTIVE it is.
With the Adventure Date, you will take her on a legitimate ADVENTURE. Some examples of this:
- Hikes to cool, remote, exciting places in the woods
- Active beach outings (swim together, bodyboard together, throw her in the surf)
- Jaunts to local abandoned “haunted houses”
- Nighttime excursions around memorials, monuments, or other places of local significance
If you do well with your arousal building, you can fool around with her outdoors… OR just whisk her to your place to “unwind” after the date.
The setting is different, but you’ll follow the same One Date “arousal date” structure and use the same One Date arousal tools as with Laughs & Thrills.
Just take her to your Adventure Date location, use the One Date arousal materials, and she’ll be out of her gourd with arousal before you know what happened.
#4: Deep Vibes Date
Sometimes you’ve got a girl you’re in good with, but she needs CONNECTION more than anything.
For her, you want the Deep Vibes Date.
This date puts you in an environment where intimate conversation comes with ease.
The atmosphere, setting, and FEEL of a place are key here.
Some of the best “Deep Vibe” locations:
- Atmospheric bars or lounges that aren’t too crowded
- Cozy cafes with tucked away booths to secret yourselves away in
- Picnics in less trafficked areas
- Drinks and snacks on your building’s rooftop
You’ll have to scout around to find spots for a Deep Vibe Date.
Once you’ve found one though, it’ll be your GO TO location for dates like this.
Once on the Deep Vibe Date, you’ll follow the “connection date” template Chase gives you in One Date.
Use the tips he equips you with to create an INCREDIBLE connection with her and make her feel like she’s known you for years.
Do this and it’s straightforward to invite her to your place… where you get to end the date in the BEST way possible.
#5: Hang Out Date
If you’re in college, or you’ve met a girl in your apartment building, or another casual setting, the Hang Out Date is ideal.
All you do for this date is invite her to “hang out” at your place.
Have snacks and refreshments.
Nachos and dip are a GREAT snack for this, and go well with alcohol.
Another thing you NEED to have is a blanket to curl up under.
Don’t worry if you’ll both be on the couch. Pull the blanket over you anyway.
Women LOVE this… and it makes it so much easier to touch them.
For the Hang Out Date, you can SKIP the usual advice of “don’t watch anything too engaging.” Movies and TV shows are fine.
The rest of the date you’ll run as a classic One Date “hookup date.”
Chase tells you exactly how to sleep with women on this date in One Date Lesson 4.
Follow the steps he lays out, and she won’t get halfway through the movie before her clothes are all over the floor.
MAKE IT ALL HAPPEN ON THE DATE
You’ve got the date plans.
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Once you have that, you can take a girl on any of these date plans and make her fall COMPLETELY for you in just a single date.
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And I’ll see you next time.